Rewriting the Rules ― An Anti Self-help Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships

Rewriting the Rules: An Anti Self-Help Guide to Love, Sex andRelationships is a friendly guide through the complicated - and often contradictory - advice that's given about sex and gender, monogamy and conflict, break-up and commitment. It asks questions about the rules of love, such as which to choose from all the rules on offer? Do we stick to the old rules we learnt growing up, or do we try somethingnew and risk being out on our own? And what about the times when the rules we love by seem to make things worse, rather than better?

We live in a time of uncertainty about relationships. We search for The One but find ourselves staying single because nobody measures up. We long for a happily-ever-after but break-up after break-up leave us bruised and confused. This new edition, updated throughout, considers how the rules are being 'rewritten' in various ways - for example in monogamish and polyamorous relationships, different ways of understanding sex and gender, and new ideas for managing commitment and break-up where economics, communities, or child-care make complete separation impossible.

This book considers how the rules are being ‘rewritten’ in various ways, giving you the power to find an approach that best fits your situation.

Dr. Meg-John Barker is a writer, therapist, and activist-academic
specialising in sex, gender and relationships. Meg-John is a senior
lecturer in psychology at the Open University and a UKCP accredited
psychotherapist. They have well over a decade’s experience researching and publishing on these topics including the books Queer: A Graphic History, How to Understand Your Gender, Enjoy Sex (How, When and If You Want To), The Psychology of Sex, and The Secrets of Enduring Love. You can read Meg-John’s blog to accompany this book at rewriting-the-rules.com.