Raising Feminist Boys: How to Talk with Your Child about Gender, Consent, and Empathy

"It's difficult to raise feminist boys when they're constantly barraged by misogynistic messages. This timely manual will help parents understand what it takes to model good behavior and set a positive example."
--Booklist (starred review)

It's never too early to start talking to boys about gender, consent, and empathy. In a world still steeped in gender inequality and sexual violence, it's become more and more clear that we can't just teach girls to protect themselves. We must also teach boys not to do harm.

As parents, we all want to raise kind and loving kids who will grow up to be conscientious adults. But when you look closely at our society--especially at the statistics surrounding rape, domestic violence, and sexual assault--it's clear that something needs to change.

It's time to teach our sons compassion and empathy. It's time to show them that it's okay to cry, to laugh, to be angry, to be silly. It's time to teach them to respect girls, and not just the ones they think are pretty. It's time to teach them that it's not okay to pick on the queer kids, the little kids, and the fat kids. It's time to teach boys that it's not okay to treat kids of color like second-class citizens. It's time to teach our boys how to be conscious citizens. But where do you begin?

Written by a clinical psychologist with expertise in modern families, Raising Feminist Boys is a parent's guide to having age appropriate conversations with boys about sexual responsibility, consent, gender, empathy, and identity. You'll find an accessible framework that includes developmental considerations, language, and clear tools for how to talk with your son about feminism without shame, fear, or judgment.