Marriage Vampire: Living with a Narcissist

Sadly, some women may recognize that their marriages are not what they expected when they married. Their spouse is totally different from the person who so lovingly courted and married them. Their world may have turned into a life that is in constant turmoil, and feelings of distrust and insecurity have crept into their daily lives. Yet, they can't quite put their finger on what is going on in the marriage to make them feel so troubled.

The problem may not be them; instead, it may be that they are unknowingly living with a person who exhibits characteristics of or has a personality disorder. This book addresses the Narcissistic Personality Disorder, those initially charming yet highly unstable personality types.

Narcissists create surreal worlds full of constant upheaval, distrust, and destruction so that they can feel powerful and control others. We must educate ourselves about Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), so we can protect ourselves from a narcissist's damaging impact on our lives, our faith, or our children.

Unlike fictional characters, NPD vampires do exist. Most people do not know about these predators until they have been bitten by one, had their life energy drained away, their reality defined by lies, or became convinced they were going crazy. This book pulls back the curtain, revealing the sources of a narcissist's seductiveness and supposed power, exposing the NPD marriage vampires as the weak people they genuinely are.

Narcissists are especially effective at abusing Christian beliefs to manipulate women of faith. We need to recognize the tricks a narcissist will use to convince us not to trust ourselves and instead employ the God-given strengths each of us must use to fight back and reclaim the truth about ourselves.

Suppose you have been, or are currently, trapped in a relationship with a narcissist. In that case, it is critical to understand the reality of the situation, recognize your power, understand the challenges, and see practical steps you can consider as you weigh your options. The final decision to go or stay in a relationship with a narcissist is yours and yours alone. This book will help you identify potential dangers, navigate traps or manipulation, and build a plan of action no matter your choice. You are not the problem... It's time you began to see yourself as God sees you.

The author, Clifton Fuller, LCSW-S, LPC-S, LMFT-S, is a counselor in private practice in San Antonio, TX. For many decades, he has witnessed these personality disorders' destructive and divisive nature on his clients, individuals, families, businesses, churches, and our world. This book is written for Christian women trapped by narcissists' lies, as well as to pastors and churches who minister to those dealing with the narcissist's "wolf in sheep's clothing" personality and behaviors.

The book also shares how narcissists are formed, how they think, react, manipulate, coerce, and even potentially become a danger to others. The information can be applied when a narcissist is involved, whether in the Christian community or outside that community.

This book is the first of an upcoming series, "Houses of Horrors: Solutions when Difficult Personalities Invade Your Life."