The Love Fight: How Achievers and Connectors Can Build a Marriage that Lasts

How can you win the love fight?

Are you an Achiever? How can you be winning clients at work, but losing the marriage battle at home? You'd think the odds would be in your favor, you know how to win. But the same attitudes that drive your success at work can drive your love life into a ditch. In The Love Fight, you'll learn how to manage those attitudes to achieve success at home and win the respect that really matters.

Are you a Connector?

How is it that you have deep and meaningful friendships, but can't connect on an intimate level with your spouse? You'd think you could woo your soul mate; you "get" people. But the approach that helps develop deep relationships with likeminded friends may not work with your Achiever spouse. In The Love Fight, you'll learn how to adjust you approach to connect across the divide to have the fulfilling love life you desire.

Divorce is epidemic among successful, "high-powered" people. Doctors, lawyers, executives, politicians and entrepreneurs often attain career success only to fail at home in their family relationships. What gives? Has success changed them? Or, have they been secretly waiting to exit when the time is right? Did they ever love their spouses?

In The Love Fight, Drs. Tony Ferretti and Peter Weiss explain how successful individuals fail at home in their intimate relationships, often from a mismatch of priorities and styles between the success-oriented "Achievers" and their relationship-oriented "Connector" spouses. This Achiever mindset is common in highly successful people of all social classes, perhaps especially so in America where such success is lionized and top CEOs are considered heroes.

As opposites attract and Achievers meet and marry Connectors, the very same personality traits that propelled the Achiever to the top in medicine, law, business or politics (and which may have attracted a more relationship-oriented partner in the first place) often sow the seeds of destruction in their marriage. These traits, and the differences between Achievers and Connectors, can create a dynamic of poor communication leading to anger, resentment, and eventual estrangement.

Achiever or Connector, The Love Fight is a book that will help you understand your spouse and yourself better. It's easy-to-read and understandable style, simple assessments, and exercises to evaluate your relationship, and straightforward strategies can help you develop an action plan to create the marriage you want.

Using true-to-life examples, The Love Fight offers insight into this challenging relationship dynamic and practical tools to heal, nurture, and grow your marriage.

• Discover the common personality traits behind the succeed-at-work/fail-at-home syndrome.
• Understand your spouse, and yourself, better.
• Find simple assessments and exercises to evaluate your relationship.
• Learn the best strategies to create a mutually satisfying marriage.