A Generous Lap: A Spirituality of Grandparenting

On the spiritual dimensions of grandparenting--how this stage of life may expand our hearts, enlarge our humanity, put us back in touch with fundamental aspects of our selves that we have lost touch with, allow opportunities for a more generous and fruitful life.

Why are we given the chance to grandparent? Maybe to grow closer to God later in life, or to find our truest self. St. Ignatius believed God had a unique dream for each of us, and surely grandparenting brings out the best self: surprisingly patient, kind and relaxed--still with the usual flaws. Attributed to St. Nick, a grandfatherly sort if ever there was one, are the words: "and this is not of ourselves." Indeed, humans who make serious mistakes can still be channels for grace.

God uses this period in human life to transform us. The most cantankerous, self-absorbed jerks suddenly discover a sweeter side. The stern start spoiling relentlessly. The introverts pull out the photos, cute sayings and stories. Those who thought their physical ailments were paralyzing sprint after the toddler heading for the street or hoist aging bodies up the jungle gym when a grandchild quails at the terrifying steepness of the slide. As "the child grows in wisdom, age and grace," we get to marvel. Miraculously, we can grow gradually into God's self, finding a spaciousness without the time constraints and financial demands borne as parents