★ 加州大學最熱門課程「愛情社會學」＋十年研究＋百次專訪＝化敗為勝的愛情！★ 出版者週刊好評推薦！★ 美國亞馬遜４顆星好評推薦！無論是平凡的普通人也好、高度敏感纖細的人也好，我們大多會一頭栽進某個特定的愛情模式裡，藉以在潛意識中回溯過往，重演某個事件，然後期望一切的一切最後都會如我們所願；但因為我們一直沒能從中找到解決的竅門，所以說，同樣的愛情模式會一再重複是相當稀鬆平常的。由於竭盡所能地想重新和童年往事面對面，在我們心底，那個重塑理想過往的渴望就一直難以平息，尤其，我們暗地裡總想藉機「撥亂反正」、彌補過失、重建從前所失去的操控權。愛情，正巧提供了回到從前最有效的途徑；我們之所以會執迷於某種典型的愛情，正因為它讓我們想起一些未解的難題，所以我們才會一再淪陷其中。我們通常都以為「溝通不良」或者「缺乏自我」是愛情問題中的主要癥結，但本書作者瑪莎‧彌爾門表示，女性的愛情永遠都不脫以下七種主要的愛情模式，以及背後所分別揭示的早年生活經歷和背景，這可以協助你發覺及了解你是屬於那些不自覺的愛情模式，知悉它的起源和潛藏意義： • 初戀：遠走高飛與歸巢（First Love: Escape and Recapture） • 師生戀式的愛情（Pygmalion: The Mentor and the Protegee） • 全蝕狂愛（Obsessive Love） • 麻雀變鳳凰式的愛情（The Downstairs Woman and the Upstairs Man） • 犧牲奉獻式的愛情（Sacrifice: Guilt Overwhelms Desire） • 羅賓漢式的愛情：達到母親辦不到的目標（Rescue: Doing What Your Mother Could Not） • 不畏時間、不懼艱險式的愛情（The Courage to Love: Overcoming Postponement and Avoidance）本書是她根據她在加州大學聖塔˙克魯斯分校開設的「愛情社會學」及十多年的資料蒐集，擷取自像是《北非諜影》、《致命的吸引力》、《麻雀變鳳凰》等電影，以及諸如夏綠蒂‧勃朗特的《簡愛》、《傲慢與偏見》等小說的例證，證明這七種愛情模式只不過是反映人生早年的經驗，解釋其中潛藏的需求與情感，同時也指出潛意識的選擇如何左右愛情的成敗，藉由發現我們正在重演的故事有助於我
'So clear is Ditlevsen's eye that it is impossible to tear yourself away' John Self, GuardianAn unforgettable collection of stories from the author of The Copenhagen Trilogy'The most important thing is probably always precisely the thing you can't have. That's where all the happiness is'In these brief, acid-sharp stories of love, marriage and family from one of Denmark's most celebrated writers, the ordinary events of everyday life - a wife anxious not to wake her husband, a little boy losing his father's beloved knife, a woman's obsessive longing for a yellow silk umbrella - become dark and disconcerting. Here Tove Ditlevsen explores yearning, fear and the elusiveness of that strange thing called happiness.'The purity and dazzling insight of Ditlevsen's writing speaks for itself' Daily Telegraph'Authentic, unforced and utterly lucid' Sunday Times'Ditlevsen's wonderful and devastatingly bleak short stories simmer with melancholy and despair' Daily MailTranslated by Michael Favala Goldm
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