The Parent Pivot: What to Do When Your Young Adult Is in Psychological Distress

The period of emerging adulthood (ages 18 to 29) is a psychologically vulnerable time. Many emerging adults are anxious, depressed, or otherwise distressed and may turn to unhealthy coping strategies, including substance misuse, unhealthy eating, Internet misuse, and risky and impulsive behaviors such as sexual acting out and reckless driving. Where parents previously functioned in the caretaker role for their young children, they must now "pivot" to a new role: coach, wise counsel, or compeer. Parents may also need to pivot back to a caretaking role for a time if their young adults are dealing with more serious mental health issues.

This book provides essential information and practical advice to help parents navigate these difficult challenges and deal with their own distress as they assist their struggling emerging adults. The authors describe various mental health symptoms and disorders common to this age group. They also discuss the difference between normal and more problematic behaviors, and options for professional help and treatment approaches. Not all young adults are willing to receive help, whether from family, friends, or professionals. But regardless of their situation, this book offers tips and strategies for how parents can maintain a loving, empathic relationship with their young adult, even in the most challenging circumstances.

Written by psychologists with extensive experience helping emerging adults and their families, this book provides invaluable guidance for communicating effectively, setting boundaries, managing collateral damage within the family, practicing self-care, mourning losses, and developing and practicing compassion for yourself and your young adult. It reflects the complex emotional dynamics occurring both within and between young adults and their parents, and it provides hope for struggling families.