●本書是關於「集體沉默」的第一本完整研究著作。●多為社會學界重量級大師聯名推薦。●各大專院校社會系所指定參考書社會學經典重現，當代大師一致推薦！覺得孤獨？也許因為我們對真相沉默……權威《美國社會學期刊》推薦：精采、發人深省的好書！每一個家庭，都有心照不宣的秘密。每一個組織，都有集體避談的話題。每一個國家，都有拒絕面對現實的政府。明明大象就在眼前，大家假裝沒看見，絕口不提，甚至否認有大象。我們以為，閉上眼睛，日子好過一點。我們以為，沉默保護自己，也保護別人。於是當面對難堪與痛苦現實，我們寧可相信無知是福，珍惜著「鴕鳥權利」，集體沉默。但集體沉默，讓我們付出高昂代價──家庭中隱藏的秘密，留下難以抹去傷痕；組織裡盤踞的惡習，最後往往臭不可聞；國家揮之不去的弊端，全民皆是受害者。備受社會學界推崇的傑魯巴維，在這本歷久不衰的經典中透過淺白精簡的文字，為讀者解構「沉默的串謀」。從日常生活到重大歷史，全書穿梭於不同階層，旁徵新聞事件、戲劇、小說、童話以及電影，引導我們思考與面對心中那頭被我們「非禮勿視、非禮勿聽、非禮勿言」的「房間裡的大象」（the elephant in the room）。傑魯巴維提醒我們：「大象」之所以龐大，往往正是由於我們的沉默。沉默，打開了傷害的大門，成了加害者、違法犯紀者的一大武器。一切殘酷和墮落，都「在黑暗中滋長」。要驅除它們，我們必須投以最明亮的光芒。 書中為我們帶來的好消息是：當我們假裝沒看見、絕口不提、拒絕承認一件事情的時間越久，我們心中揭露這件事的欲望就會更強烈。一旦我們集體打破沉默，願意正視、聆聽與討論，大象就會如變魔術般，開始縮小。最後，我們才能將這頭傳說中的大象，趕出房間……「世上許多不幸，源自……沒有說出口的事。」──杜斯妥也夫斯基毫不猶豫地強烈且熱情的推薦這本書。――American Journal of Sociology
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